Psychologists don’t view anger as a disorder but they can help if your anger is scaring someone!
Here’s a checklist to see if you have a problem with anger:
1. Do you get angry too often?
2. Do you stay in that angry state and can’t get out of it when you want?
3. Does your angry behaviour tend to ruin your relationships personally or professionally?
4. When you get angry, do you feel out of control?
5. Do people run when you get angry?
If you answered yes to these questions, then you could benefit from classes in managing your anger. Anger is a normal emotion but if it gets out of hand, it could ruin your relationships.
A well rounded programme will teach skills in stress management, empathy, assertive communication, expectation management, forgiveness, improving judgment and impulse control, and improving self-talk.
Its informative not punitive. Don’t be deterred by misconceived stigmas, be proactive and improve your life.
Its a class not psychotherapy. It can be one to one or learned in a group situation. It’s your choice.
I really enjoyed the following article. Have a read if you want more tips….
Anger Management Self Help – Learn to Control Your Anger Before it Controls You
By BK Carter
Do you know how to deal with your anger in everyday situations? All of us get angry once in a while, it’s a necessary emotion triggered by the human’s “fight or flight” mechanism. Learning to cope with anger before it goes to far is extremely important for your mental and physical health. These health problems could include heart disease, stroke, or even depression.
Anger doesn’t always have to show itself in an all out rage that causes you to go off cussing and cursing. Sometimes it’s the little irritations that can add up into bigger problems. That’s why figuring out what triggers your anger is very important. For example, one of my triggers is crowds. I despise being in crowds and I hate people bumping into me all of the time. Over the years I have learned to avoid crowds as much as possible; I go to the mall during the day or on Sunday mornings and I stay away from big events. In the long run, this has helped me keep from becoming irritated which is one of the things that leads to my anger.
A good way to deal with your anger when you feel it coming on is to get away from the situation. After you walk away, take a deep breath and count to ten. The air will bring good energy into your body and when you breathe out, the bad energy will go with it. While you are away, you can think about if the problem was just a minor irritation that got out of hand or if you really need to confront the problem. If you feel you need to confront the issue, you will be able to get your game plan together as well.
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I enjoyed reading this article. It seems very relevant today especially as people are under great stress and easily snap at the slightest provocation. However, apart from counting to ten and taking a “time out” ,I was wondering how people in a domestic or family situation should best cope with cumulative ,pent up outbursts ? As many intense anger situations arise with family and significant others, I would suggest that people need to un-learn negative dynamics where they interact according to past patterns that are based on old power structured dynamics and habits that are no longer useful eg. parent/child, older/younger authoritarian roles. The question is how to de-fuse a sudden situation and change these ingrained anger responses ?
Lower your voice to almost a whisper is one tip, practise some assertiveness strategies. eg “When you yell at me, I feel so bad, I can’t think straight so please talk to me in a rational/sensible manner and then I will be able to respond. Otherwise this discussion is over for now.”